Have you noticed any changes?

This is one question I ask every client or family each time we meet. The answers vary – from “Math seems easier” to “M. is calmer” to “S. is able to enjoy being outdoors” or “O. seems more present and engaged.” Answering this question a few days ago, a young client claimed: “I haven’t changed!” Well, of course, I had to explain to her, there’s no need for you to change. You are perfect being just who you are. What I’m trying to find out is whether things have become easier for you.

This is not a matter of semantics at all. The client needs to feel confident that the goal of our work is not to transform him/her into another person. It really isn’t.

Think what can happen when “things”, whatever they are, become easier:

When you have a better sense of where you are in space, you can move with more confidence, engage in team sports more easily, sleep better, have fewer accidents.

When you can sort your fingers from one another, you are more likely to be successful in writing, drawing, playing music.

When your eyes work better, you’re likely to have an easier time with reading, with being active outside, with maintaining eye contact.

When you don’t need to spend so much energy protecting a sensitive tactile system, you’re likely to be able to dress differently, to maintain your grooming better, to try different foods.

When your vestibular system supports you better, your level of anxiety is likely to be reduced, your mobility enhanced.

Any of these systems, with better organization, can allow you to broaden your scope of interests.

Isn’t this what we are all looking for?

Well, maybe not all of us.

"My," the girl said. "What big ears you have!"

"The better to hear you with, my child."

"Grandma, what big eyes you have!"

"The better to see you with, my dear."